Book of the week
Would you love to understand yourself better? Or find a simple way to enhance your emotional, psychological and spiritual wellbeing? Then Byron Katie’s Loving What Is has been written for you.
In this compelling read, the author shares her revolutionary four-step system (known as ‘The Work’) to overcome problems by looking at them from an alternative perspective. Her ground-breaking system has had very real, tangible results for thousands of people.
Drawing on real-life and often very painful situations – struggling marital relationships, fears which are spiralling out of control, and the impact of bereavement – Byron demonstrates how ‘The Work’ can empower us to find clarity and peace, and an escape from cycles of negativity and destructive behaviour patterns.
What is so enlightening about this four-step system is its transparency and simplicity. There is no requirement to follow, accept or practice any kind of spiritual belief to get results. Rather, it is up to us, the individual, to use Byron’s system to fully explore the painful events in our lives, in a more caring, compassionate and loving way.
She states that, ‘it’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem’. Too much thinking is what causes our distress.
So to counteract this and enable us to look at things differently, we need to apply four simple questions to the situation/circumstances which are causing us pain:
- ‘Do you know that’s true?’
- ‘Do you 100% know that it’s true?’
- ‘How does that thought make you feel?’
- ‘How can you replace that thought with a better feeling thought?’’
Delving deeper into our answers (and the situation as a whole) may generate some initial irritation, but this is an imperative part of the process. The intention is objectivity.
As with all of Katie’s books, mindset is at the heart of her message. By shifting one’s outlook on life (past, present and future) we can embrace a deeper understanding and clarity. This enables us to better understand ourselves, our relationships, and the life events which have shaped us – for better or worse.
What also stands out with this pioneering approach is its longevity. Once we are fully acquainted with ‘The Work’ we can apply its practice to all aspects of our lives. We can use it to prevent future events escalating out of control, detract us from falling back into negative behaviour patterns, and help us move forward quicker, armed with a newfound peace and clarity.
If you’re tired of dwelling on the past, struggling in the present and worrying about the future, Loving What Is could be the key to unlocking your new outlook on life.
About the author…
Byron Kathleen Mitchell, generally known as Byron Katie is an American author, speaker, and teacher of her signature method of self-inquiry known as ‘The Work of Byron Katie’, or more simply ‘The Work’. She is the founder of Byron Katie International (BKI), and the author of several works including Loving What Is (2002), I Need Your Love – Is That True? (2008), A Thousand Names For Joy (2008), and Who Would Be Without Your Story? She’s married to fellow author and translator Stephen Mitchell, who often collaborates with her on her books (including Loving What Is).
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