It’s spring at last and I’m bouncing out of bed when the birds start singing. Spring is the time of new beginnings, trees budding, blossom bursting and nests filling. We’re used to the idea of spring cleaning cupboards and windows, but what about our life?
Spring is when we plant seeds and when flowers start to bloom and we know that if we want to see these flowers and those shoots, we need to clear the weeds, cut off the dead heads and add lots of fertiliser to the soil. Well it’s the same with ourselves; we need to uproot things which drain us and take our energy and we need to shower our self with things that feed us and help us bloom.
As I’ve been sitting in the sun, I’ve had time to reflect on the last year and what I had enjoyed, and what I hadn’t. I realised that a lot that I had been doing was just not enjoyable. It felt like hard work and wasn’t playing to my strengths at all.
I started to doodle and came up with the Energy Life Map. I started to use it myself and then shared it on my blog and with my clients and people found it a really simple but really powerful way to reboot their life and so I offer it to you so you can get the zing back in your life.
Here’s how to try it.
- Draw a line across the page with ‘Energising’ at one end and ‘Draining’ at the other.
- Then think of all the things in your life that seem significant and plot them on the line.
To help you think here are some prompts:
- What do you always find time to do because you love it so much?
- What makes time fly?
- What do you look forward to?
- What can make you feel like you have more energy even when you are tired?
- What makes you feel more alive and makes your heart sing
- What feels joyful, fun or easy?
- What do you put off doing?
- What do you dread?
- What makes you feel tired?
- What makes you feel bad about yourself?
- What is just plain boring or irritating?
- What is joyless?
Of course some things will be in the middle.
Think of all areas of your life: home, work, family, friends, travel, free time and health.
How are you spending your time?
Some drains are necessary; you need to keep an eye on the money and pay your bills. Some of the drains will be one-offs and so when they are done, that’s it, done – relief.
But others, like money are ongoing and these we have to work with differently. We can either change the situation or change our attitude to it. So if you have been feeling that you hate your job but you need the money one thing you could start to do is to re-write your CV and look for another job. If this isn’t possible then look for things that you do enjoy within the working day (for example, do you have a laugh with colleagues) or focus on what the job provides you with (money so you can live).
What can you do so you spend 2017 doing more of what energises you and less of what drains you?
You might also want to do another line with the people you know on.
- Who are the people who fill you with excitement and who you seem to get a second wind with and who are the people who drain you and exhaust you?
- How can you see more of the energisers and less of the drains?
This map has already changed my life for the better. I’m spending as much of my life as possible feeling energised, inspired, curious, creative and in flow. Life is short and I want to be absolutely ruthless with minimising what drains me: whether that is people, places, thinking or what I spend my time doing.
When I’m energised I’m fun, empathetic, loving, sexy, social and relaxed. When I’m drained I’m crabby, insular, tearful, stressed, critical and tired. So I owe it the world, as well as myself to keep myself on the ‘energised’ side of the spectrum and so do you.
Dr Julie Leoni coaches and teaches women to ask for what they want, look after their own needs and empower themselves in all their relationships. Julie is a Coach, Researcher, Facilitator and Writer and draws on her experience and training in bereavement, domestic abuse, mindfulness, meditation, Transactional Analysis and other therapeutic approaches to empower her clients and help families recover from death, divorce, separation and domestic abuse.
Contact her at Julie@lovebeingme.co.uk or visit her website: www.lovebeingme.co.uk