I’m a Women’s Hormone Health and Fertility Coach. I’ve been on different courses over the years, including one on health coaching with nutrition with the Institute of Integrative Nutrition (see link at end of article to find out more about this course).
And one powerful lesson I took away from my studies is that nourishment is far more than the food on our plates.
Leading a fulfilled and nourished life comes from having balance in other key areas of our lives too.
Here’s what I think makes for a fulfilled and happy life too.
Let’s build relationships that support our needs and wants and are healthy. By relationships, I mean with partners, family, friends, neighbours, colleagues and in our communities.
We thrive in communities, groups and with friends. Sadly, community is declining in the crazy, modern world. We (generally) live in homes with locked doors, behind fences watching TV or on computers, looking for friends and community online, which seems ironic to me.
It’s love that makes the world go round. To give love. To receive love. And not just romantic love. It’s been scientifically proven that touch and hugs heal. Again, not just intimate touching – holding hands, massage, an actual pat on the back, stroking your pet. All forms of touch. Many adults are touched starved, I think.
But romance and sex are pretty good, eh?
Real communication feels pretty good too. We are often starved of listening, I think. Proper listening, active listening. Trying to be clear about what the other person is really saying before butting in with our answer or ‘solution’ that they didn’t even ask for. Discussing more than just ‘problems’. Ever heard ‘we need to talk’ and felt sick to your stomach?
Hey, let’s do things differently! Give compliments, shovel on praise, tell jokes and stories, share dreams! We’re all individuals. Find and nurture relationships that are appropriate and nourishing for YOU.
Enjoy your career or calling
Too many folks spend 8+ hours a day working and little time with partners, family and friends, right? That’s a long time. It probably feels forever if you’re not enjoying it. I know it’s not always possible though to tell your boss to stuff their crappy job when you need to pay the rent.
But if you can’t stand your job, please try to change it by speaking to your boss in a constructive way OR make an exit plan quick-sticks. Life really is too short to do a job you hate, with people you can’t stand, for that length of time. Plus stress is really bad for health, hormones and happiness.
‘Careers’ are so different these days. People are expected to ‘job hop’. It’s more acceptable to engineer your own career changes. It’s also common for both women and men to stay at home and be homemakers, parents, home-schoolers, and carers. For those unhappy at work, brainstorm all the things (not just work) you like to do and in there somewhere are clues to the perfect job for you. It may not be possible overnight but everything IS possible. It’s a question of what you are prepared to do to get it. And how much you want it.
We’re designed to move, not sit in chairs or on sofas or to lie down all day. True fact. Many are literally shaving years off their lives with inactivity. Hey, no need to go run a marathon or sign up for an Iron Man. Nope, It can be walking for 20-30 minutes a day.
I also encourage women to include activity into daily life more easily by taking the stairs, playing actively with the kids in the park. It’s about finding things that you’ll enjoy, and blending them into your days and weeks, until they become good habits. Variety is great. Not just to prevent boredom.
Varying activities reaps different physical benefits like building muscle mass, burning fat or giving you a boost. And it reaps mental and emotional benefits like energising, grounding and calming.
Heck it can even be FUN! I stick on some tunes and bust some moves in my kitchen if I want to feel energised and positive. It gets the old blood pumping and energy flowing. I get out the dog leads and take my mutts for a walk to clear my head and feel more grounded. I enjoy yoga for stretching my body, calming breathing and stilling my busy brain.
Going back to nurturing relationships, exercise and team sports can also be ways of making connections with others. Again, it’s about trying things and working out what’s right for you.
Now, don’t think this sounds like a load of old twaddle and hocus pocus. To me, spirituality is just finding meaning in life. And peace. It could be about religious practices. But not always.
It’s so individual. Personally, I feel like a speck in the universe. I kinda think there are forces more powerful than me, turning the tides, making buds appear in spring. My own spiritual practices include yoga and meditation. AND shoving (ungloved) hands into warm soil to plant seeds and watch them grow. I love to mindfully chop, blend, cook and serve foods to family and friends. I enjoy nothing better than being with other women, talking, laughing, sharing life experiences, supporting, encouraging. That’s my spiritual practice. What about you?
How are you living a truly fulfilled life?
Love, Kathy x
Kathy Payne is a Booster of Fertility. Calmer of Hormones. Soother of Modern Life Madness. A Women’s Health Coach with special interests in women’s cycles, fertility, hormonal health, pre/menopause, stress and energy. She’s a reformed former overweight, unfit, exhausted, sick and cranky corporate stress-bunny.
Kathy works face-to-face in Norwich, UK or worldwide via Skype and also offers a range of online classes and courses to take you from hormone-y to harmony. Download her free guide “10 Surprising Signs of Haywire Hormones and Hacks to Help” here: http://bit.ly/10surprisingsigns